Coercionship: A relationship founded upon coercion, manipulation, guilt, and lying to oneself. These relationships begin when predators target women with low self esteem, and especially with traumatic pasts, who have internalized a high degree of feminine socialization and misogyny.
In a coercionship, a woman feels no natural attraction to her partner, instead, her internal life experience is one of convincing herself that she should be compelled to love/find him attractive in order to be a good and moral person. She struggles to force herself to be attracted to him, and finds her own lack of attraction to him wrong, to the point where she refuses to admit she could not be attracted to him. She dissociates during sexual encounters, and when she is turned on during these encounters, it is not by the man himself or any attraction to him, but instead by some other factor, such as imagining a scenario in her head.
Men who initiate coercionships are rapists by default. They know these women are incapable of being attracted to them, but they use guilt or maybe elicit pity or other emotional manipulation tactics to convince the woman that the only right thing to do is to “give him a chance.” And the foundation of the relationship is the woman trying to convince herself she is morally obligated to give him a chance and to try her best to be attracted to him.
like where are we at that women who don’t wear makeup are put into a category of trying to be androgynous. it is literally a non-behavior. woman without makeup is the default woman. sorry about your gender worship.
A trend I notice with radical feminist writers is how blunt and direct they are, which makes them easy to read. Valerie Solanas, Andrea Dworkin, Gail Dines–all of them cut straight to the point. Meanwhile, “queer theory” authors like Judith Butler and Michel Foucault are famously dense, obscure, and no one can ever agree on what their point is.
I see people talk about how there’s an anti-intellectual backlash happening on the Left, but I think it’s worse than that–it’s not just that people are discrediting academics and research, they’re discrediting common sense. It’s common sense to say that a man who orgasms to the thought of women in pain is a misogynist. It’s common sense to say that sex that is meant to hurt and degrade someone is not good sex. It’s common sense to say that a man is not a woman.
And I think that’s why radical feminist authors come across as blunt speakers–because they aren’t intellectualizing the obvious, they’re stating it. Meanwhile, the work of Butler and Foucault obscures reality as much as possible (oh sorry– “problematizes” reality as much as possible).
I wish the people who accuse radical feminists of having dog whistles would actually read radical feminist literature and see how blunt the writing is–absolutely nothing has a double meaning or an implied meaning. Everything is direct.
there’s more but tumblr has a 10 picture limit :) and this is only after a quick google search. found a journal article stating that rape and sexual assault is a huge problem within gynaecology and every. single. case. i found was of a male gynaecologist that caused harm to his female patients. but hey, let’s just paint op as stupid, paranoid, and irrational right? 🤔
plus “urology”… smh everyone has a urinary tract and a bladder???
Right??? People really don’t understand female anatomy.
“It is extraordinary how little the medical profession engages with menstruation. Although recent years have seen period taboos broken through social media campaigns, this has yet to permeate medical discourse - and periods are seldom given serious medical consideration in research. Scant research has been conducted on specific pain prevention or pain relief and devices such as tampons, moon-cups and sanitary towels remain rudimentary. It’s not only women’s period pain which is taken less seriously, either – ignoring women’s pain is a concerning practise across medicine. Recent research has shown that women’s pain is taken much less seriously by doctors generally. Men wait an average of 49 minutes before being treated for abdominal pain. For women, the wait is 65 minutes for the same symptoms. It’s thought that this is because women are seen as exaggerating pain and being ‘dramatic’ due to sexist stereotypes, while men are listened to and believed when they express the same pain and symptoms. Indeed, the word ‘hysterical’, itself stems from hystericus, meaning ‘of the womb’, indelibly linking how society has linked wombs with overreaction, incredibility and instability.”
